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聰明的人,從不糾纏Clever man, never entangled

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聰明的人,從不糾纏Clever man, never entangled

聰明的人,從不糾纏 Clever man, never entangled

My assistant Linlin, these days looked very depressed.



I asked her what thoughts, she angrily and I said: "sister, overseas business department that the woman in the back of my bad words, mad at me, you say I want to find her to tear a?

 


I asked: "Have you recently been training, do you have a pass at the end of the exam? Did the PPT done to me?"

 


Lin Lin said with a hint: "No yet."

 


I went on to say: "She ah, in our company be the oldest female employees, and jobs have been unable to rise up, my heart grievances Tao Tao, to see who is not pleasing to the eye, she also in front of my face mulberry. Do not want to pay attention to this stubble child, we have a small goal, we should strive to move forward, and her entanglement, thanks to ah.

 


Linlin laughed: "Well, ah, understand that you are not let me care about these bad things right, I went to work.



In fact, these years, I met a lot of inexplicable slander, you did not provoke the man, he was behind you all slander.


At the beginning, I was angry, but later found that all such people, most of them live is not very smooth, but they are in this way, to block their own sense of powerlessness, to their own, find some heart balance.

 


If you and he torn, not only look embarrassed, but also a lot of energy and time wasted, which is what he hoped: anyway, I was so, you can not pull the move.

 


At this point, if you and his entanglement, you lose. Do not care, is the best contempt.



My neighbor, Z, is a middle-level manager of a real estate company, cut off two years ago when laying off. Ordinarily the old staff should not be in the list, it is estimated that Z offended which boss. Z angry work is not handover, jump foot cursed: "I must retaliate!

 


really. The big brother died around the company played two years of lawsuit, is said to have not yet settled. The company has a special legal department responsible for this matter, dragged on for a long time does not matter, most is to spend some money. And more than 40-year-old Z is not the same, and watched the golden age of life consumed in the unnecessary entanglement.

 


If he is only twenty years old, wasted two years, big deal come back again. But 40 years old is not the same, where affordable? Two years, for a nearly fifty years old in the workplace who fight what it means, it should be self-evident.


Compared to Z, my friend H is much clever.

 


H is a professional manager, three years ago was a company appointed general manager. How can the boss limit his power everywhere, so that his work can not be carried out. Barely support for six months, H is struggling to take the initiative to resign. Because it is his breach of contract, so only get a little reward.

 


I heard this after the thing, for his resentment, let him find a board to discuss a statement, or too loss. H said casually: "It does not matter, since the intention to leave, we should focus on the next stop, I do not and they are in this virtual time to throw it.

 


Soon, H went to a company as a general manager, all the way through the clutter, open up the soil, two years, the company's output and profits have doubled, and now, their company in the industry, has been ranked in the forefront of the country.

 


Occasionally, we chat in the WeChat, mention the original, asked him if there is no heart revenge ideas?


Haha laughed: "how can I have time to revenge, busy too busy to come! Free to the gym, not because the cause of the destruction of the body. Daughter-in-law have to accompany it, no longer busy and can not ignore the family. In the circle of friends did not see my travel photos, right?


Revenge, what an international joke, enjoy the time of life is not enough, pull those boring doing? "



Perhaps, everyone has had revenge in the heart of the grievances. Some because of the former, some because the former boss, some because of nonsensical people. When we are hurt, being deceived, being disappointed, the real meaning of these things, just to make us more clearly understand some of the things.

 


The process of entanglement will only exacerbate the loss.


Goddess Faye Wong always a love who looks like, let you make irresponsible remarks, she never said one. She ran herself frankly, even if the whole world said her gossip, she did not explain do not care, only sideways from a variety of fetters through, went to where they want to go.


Merry is not talking about the wind wins, the longest silent handsome.


So, for those malicious slander, silence is the best weapon, it is more powerful than the outbreak.


 


"Later Han Guo Tai Chuan" recorded the "broken buckle regardless of" the story: Guo Tai in Taiyuan, one day to see the way there is a person carrying a jar walk, walking, this jar suddenly fell to the ground , Crashing, scary. Who knows that pedestrians do not see, continue to go its way, just like nothing happened.


Guo Tai looked very strange to take the initiative to ask him: "Why is your jar crashed, do not see, abandoned, continue to walk?


The man replied, "Is it broken?"


Guo Tai feel this person to talk extraordinary, can afford to put down, is a Wizards, so advised him to school. The book records this person called Meng Min, the word uncle up. Meng Min school ten years later, the famous world.

 


Yes, life needs to look forward, as soon as possible from the bad emotions freed. If the energy and time spent on the useless things, that there are many concerns, used to enhance themselves?

 


Clever man, never entangled. Let yourself live more exciting, is the most wisdom of the practice.

 


When you become the best of their own, all the wind and water from the time, will bearish a lot of things, even if the year you cried people, will meet a smile.



我的助理琳琳,這幾天顯得很郁悶。


我問她有什么心事,她生氣地和我說:“姐,海外事業部那個女的又在背后說我壞話,氣死我了,你說我要不要去找她撕一把?”

 

我問:“你最近不是在接受培訓嗎,月底考試有把握通過嗎?給我做的PPT完成了嗎?”

 

琳琳不好意思地小聲說:“沒呢。”

 

我接著說:“她啊,在咱們公司算是年齡最大的女員工了,可職位一直升不上去,心里怨氣濤濤,看誰都不順眼,她還曾經當著我的面指桑罵槐呢。我才不想搭理這茬兒,我們是有小目標的,要努力往前走,和她糾纏,多虧呀。”

 

琳琳笑:“嗯嗯,明白了,您是不讓我理這些爛事對吧,我去干活了。”

聰明的人,從不糾纏Clever man, never entangled

其實,這些年,我遇到過很多莫名其妙的詆毀,你根本沒有招惹那人,他卻在背后對你各種中傷。


開始的時候,我也生氣,可后來發現,凡是這樣的人,大多活得不怎么順暢,他們不過是用這種方式,來遮擋自身的無力感,給自己,找一些心里平衡。

 

如果你和他撕扯,不僅樣子難堪,還會浪費很多精力和時間,這正是他希望的:反正我就這樣了,把你也拉著動不了。

 

此時,你要是和他糾纏,你就輸了。不計較,才是最好的蔑視。



我的鄰居Z,是一家房地產公司的中層管理人員,兩年前在裁員時被裁掉了。按說老員工不應該在被裁之列,估計是Z得罪了哪位上司。Z氣得工作也不交接,跳腳大罵:“我一定要報復!”

 

果真。這位大哥死死纏著公司打了兩年的官司,據說還沒了結。公司有專門的法務部門負責這事,拖再久也無所謂,最多就是花點錢。而四十多歲的Z就不一樣了,眼看著人生的黃金年齡白白消耗在無謂的糾纏上。

 

如果他只有二十多歲,虛度兩年,大不了翻盤重來。可是四十幾歲就不一樣了,哪里耗得起?兩年,對一個年近五十歲在職場打拼的人意味著什么,應該是不言而喻的。


相比起Z,我的朋友H就聰明得多。

 

H是一位職業經理人,三年前被一家公司聘任為總經理。怎知老板處處限制他的權力,讓他的工作無法開展。勉強支撐了半年,H實在舉步維艱,就主動提出辭職。因為是他毀約,所以只拿到很少的一點酬勞。

 

我聽說此事后,替他憤懣,讓他找董事會討個說法,不然太虧了。H輕描淡寫地說:“無所謂,既然打算離開了,就要把精力放在下一站,我才不和他們在這虛擲光陰呢。”

 

不久,H又去一家公司當了總經理,一路披荊斬棘,開疆拓土,兩年時間,把公司的產值和利潤都翻了番,如今,他們公司在行業內,已排在國內前列。

 

偶爾一次,我們在微信上聊天,提起當初,問他有沒有心生報復的想法?


H哈哈大笑:“我哪有時間報復,忙還忙不過來呢!有空去健身房,不能因為事業毀了身體。媳婦孩子也要陪吧,再忙也不能忽視家人。還有旅游,你在朋友圈沒少看到我旅游的照片吧?


報復,開什么國際玩笑,享受生活的時間還不夠用,扯那些無聊的干嘛?”



或許,每個人心里都曾有過報復的怨氣。有的是因為前任,有的是因為前老板,有的是因為無厘頭的人。當我們被傷害,被欺騙,被辜負,這些事情真正的意義,只是為了讓我們更清楚看懂一些事一些人。

 

而糾纏的過程,只會加劇損失。


女神王菲永遠一副愛誰誰的模樣,任憑你說三道四,無謂的廢話她從不多說一句。她坦然地經營著自己,就算全世界都說她的流言蜚語,她也不解釋不搭理,只側身從各種羈絆里穿過,走到自己想去的地方。


風流不在談鋒勝,袖手無言味最長。


所以,對于那些惡意的中傷,沉默是最好的武器,它比爆發更有力量。

聰明的人,從不糾纏Clever man, never entangled
 

《后漢書·郭泰傳》記載了“破甑不顧”的故事:郭泰在太原時,有一天看到路上有一個人背著個瓦罐走路,走著走著,這瓦罐突然掉到地上去了,嘩啦一聲,嚇人一跳。誰知那個行路人看也不看,繼續走它的路,就像什么事也沒有發生一樣。


郭泰看了覺得很奇怪,就主動上前問他:“為什么你的瓦罐摔碎了,看也不看,棄之不顧,繼續走路?”


那人回答:“破都破了,再看還有什么用呢?”


郭泰覺得此人談吐不凡,拿得起放得下,是個奇才,于是勸他進學。書中記載此人叫孟敏,字叔達。孟敏求學十年之后,就名聞天下。

 

是啊,人生需要向前看,要盡快從不良的情緒中解脫出來。如果,把精力和時間一味耗費在無益的事上,那還有多少關注,用來提升自己呢?

 

聰明的人,從不糾纏。讓自己活得更精彩,才是最智慧的做法。

 

當你成為最好的自己,一切風生水起時,會看淡很多事,哪怕是當年讓你哭過的人,也會相逢一笑。

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