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結婚后經常去旅行有多重要? How important is it to travel frequently after getting married?

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我一直覺得我媽的人生特別圓滿。

 

她50多歲,身材依舊苗條,作為母親,和我爸恩愛了幾十年,生有一兒一女。作為老師,桃李天下,每年來給她拜年的人絡繹不絕。在所有認識人眼里,我媽就是成功女性的典范。我媽也老說,自己這一生,沒什么遺憾的事情。

 

但是有一天,吃完晚飯后,她像往常一樣在拖地。電視上正放著一個國家的旅游廣告。她突然停下來,饒有興趣地看完,輕輕說了一句:“好想和你們一起去呀。然后就又去拖地了。

 

不知道為什么,我心里突然酸了一下。并且意識到,其實我媽是一個特別喜歡玩的女人。做飯時都唱著歌手舞足蹈,一到周末就老想招呼大家去新開的館子嘗嘗鮮。

 

她也是一個特別熱愛旅行的人,她常常給我講姥爺姥姥帶小時候的她周游全國的經歷,也告訴我女孩子一定要去和愛的人多旅行。

 

可是,自從結了婚,有了我們,我媽好像從來沒離開過家里一步。那刻我才發現,我媽不是沒有遺憾,只是沒有人在意罷了。

 

一個女人,無論在多大年紀,生活看起來多么完美,心中都會住著一個夢想和愛人一起去旅行的小女孩。

 

海子說,你來人間一趟,你要看看太陽。和你的心上人,一起走在街上。

 

愛TA就一定要帶TA去旅行。

 

結婚前旅行是檢驗兩個人能不能走下去的最好手段。旅行里暴露出的生活問題會時時在考驗戀愛中的雙方,對還沒經歷過油鹽醬醋過的情侶來說,應該早起去多看看景點還是干脆睡個懶覺的選擇問題都會被放大為“你我的世界觀是否契合”。

 

對方性格如何,脾氣好壞,遇到問題是否懂得解決,是否體貼會照顧人,這些問題都會在旅行中體現。能不能相處下去,或者說,愿不愿意和這個人相處,就是看旅行中,彼此的耐心。

 

結婚后經常去旅行有多重要? How important is it to travel frequently after getting married?

 

如果你婚前扛過了旅行考驗,那婚后更要經常去旅行。

 

我們常常說,一個女人的婚姻好不好,看她的臉就知道,我每次看高圓圓和趙又廷結婚后,變得越發有氣質和韻味,尤其是在她出去旅行的照片里,一笑一顰都特別迷人。

 

她喜歡旅游,而每當她在微博里發出旅行的照片,總會有很多人開玩笑評論說:姑父呢?

 

有人問趙又廷:為什么難得不拍戲還要跟著圓圓滿世界到處跑?

 

趙又廷說:“她想去哪里,我就會陪她去哪里。

 

在當時的評論里,我看到這么一句話:婚姻其實并不可怕,而是把婚姻當墳墓的人,他們自打結婚后,就哪兒也不去,活活把自己釘死在家里。

 

我見過很多男人結了婚之后,在外出軌偷腥;

我見過很多女人結了婚之后,只會圍著孩子轉;

我也見過這些結了婚的男男女女,整天抱怨家中的一切。

 

他們站在過來人的立場,一口一個“墳墓”,告訴我們婚姻生活有多么可怕,有多么平淡和乏味,說這就是現實。

 

我想起畢業那年我那位人事部主管,她34歲,看上去跟27、28歲沒什么差別,笑容燦爛,和老公結婚9年。

 

當我實習轉正剛入職的時候,聽聞這位人事部主管離職了,原因是公司面臨融資擴張的關鍵節點,不給她批假期出去旅游。

 

我做轉正述職報告那天,就是她在公司最后一天。在會議室里,她問我:“如果有一天,工作有可能嚴重影響到你的生活,你會怎么選擇?

 

我特別討好公司地說:“沒有錢就無法生活,工作比生活重要。”她淡淡地笑了笑,然后說:“好,你的述職報告已經做完了,之后會有人來通知你結果”從那之后,我就再也沒有見過她。

 

后來聽公司的同事說,她和她老公,約好了一年至少得有一次出國旅行,那時我剛大學畢業,我無法理解旅行對她和她老公來說怎么會這么重要。

 

一直到后來,我看到我身邊很多人結婚,然后理所當然的把生活過得食之無味時,我才知道她當初為什么如此捍衛她和老公出去旅行的權利。

 

兩個人就算當年愛得再激烈,總會在生活中的某一個階段,發現生活會陷入某種乏味和瑣碎,愛情在煙火油膩中,模糊了容顏,磨損了熱情。既然我們愿意為了柴米油鹽醬醋茶去隱忍自己,為什么不愿意為了琴棋書畫詩酒茶去喘口氣呢?

 

你們不用再只談論紙尿布、咒罵上司、清算賬單,你們放松下來,可以回憶一下過去的美好時光,曾經有過的夢想,那些久違的甜蜜,會重新爬上心頭。

 

也許,在繁重瑣碎中,我們早就懂得了生活的真相,但我們依舊要選擇相信愛;我們早就了解彼此的弱點,卻不會放棄將要陪我一生的人。

 

可能這就是,婚姻有千不好萬不好,大家還都想找一人終老的原因吧。

 

如果你愛孩子,就帶TA去旅行。

 

我的朋友謝可慧寫過一段故事,那年她去歐洲旅行的時候,碰到一對中國父子。父親因為出差,帶著孩子一路游歷歐洲城市,孩子的父親好像是一個海歸博士,你可以感受到他身上的那種平和和從容,見過世面。

 

這個父親說了一段話,讓她印象深刻,他說:“我總覺得,我們那一代人,是有貧窮基因的,沒有良好的物質條件,也沒出去見過世面。這樣的基因,是囿于自身以及上一代人的局限。

 

所以,一直到成年之后,都會有一種對生活的不安全,希望拼命賺錢,希望出人頭地,拼命地用物質裝點自己。而我希望,下一代人,不會是這樣。

 

所以,他盡可能多的讓孩子去看外面的世界,見外面的人。他的孩子今年十歲,衣著樸實,會坐長途巴士去巴黎,也可以與人用英語流利地交談,低調而內斂。

 

很久之前,我讀過海明威的一句話。

 

“如果你足夠幸運,年輕時候在巴黎居住過,那么此后無論你到哪里,巴黎都將一直跟著你。”

 

每個城市都有它自己的氣質,它會在你的年幼期影響你,改變你,告訴你生活原來還有這么多活法。

 

結婚后經常去旅行有多重要? How important is it to travel frequently after getting married?

 

知乎上有一個問題,去過100個以上的國家是種什么樣的體驗。有一個答案點贊最高。

 

“懂得了這世界上沒有所謂天然正確和絕對政治正確,能夠接受別人有不同的三觀以及其衍生出來的思考方式。”在這個充滿偏見,不理解,甚至一見不同便惡言相向的時代,能夠接受別人有不同的三觀,不同的活法,是多么重要的事情。

 

等孩子真的長大后她就會明白不是三十歲一定要結婚,男人不是一定要有錢有勢才叫成功。如果你愛你的孩子,一定要帶TA去旅行。

 

讓TA去看看,這個世界有多好,讓TA在最天真純潔的時候,把孩子對每個城市的美好記憶,深深地刻在腦海里。長大了,就算碰到什么不如意,他怎么會放棄生活呢?

 

如果你愛生活,就去旅行。

 

微博上曾有一段轉發過百萬的話——當你盯著電腦時,阿拉斯加的鱈魚正躍出水面;當你愁眉發呆時,梅里雪山的金絲猴剛好爬上樹尖;當你擠地鐵時,西藏的云鷹直入云端;

 

當你與上司爭吵時,尼泊爾的背包客已端起酒杯圍在火堆旁。這個世界,有一些穿高跟鞋走不到的路,有一些噴著香水聞不到的空氣,有一些在寫字樓里永遠遇不見的人……

 

很多人把一切怪罪于生活,推責給現實,所以年紀輕輕,就活生生死在“家”里。

 

婚姻,家庭,生活的確很現實,我們每一個人活在這個世上,也都會面臨各種各樣的壓力。

 

你看起來那些婚姻美滿的家庭,可能夫妻兩個已經整整一年沒怎么說話,你看起來那些年紀輕輕就當上創始人CEO的八零九零后,可能每天都在深夜為了下一筆融資輾轉反側。

 

我就見過當地的老板開著豪車,住著別墅,誰又知道他欠了銀行幾千萬想偷偷自殺呢?網上看到一句話,誰不是一邊熱愛生活,一邊想死呢?

 

我不敢說婚姻到底是不是墳墓,可我知道,生活就是一個從出生便開始就走向墳墓的過程。

 

生活是無法真正逃離的,就像一段曾經許下承諾要牽手到老的婚姻一樣,它會細水長流陪伴兩個人一直到老,我們不能每一次瑣碎的吵架就想著離婚,不能面對不再有激情的伴侶就想著分道揚鑣,不能把兩個人活生生綁在家里不能動彈。

 

也就像生活在這個世界上的每一個我們,身上都肩負著不同的壓力,能說出一萬個走不開的理由,可我們不能永遠不停下來看看,不能被生活限制在一個狹小的空間里,不能年紀輕輕就被現實綁住手腳。

 

哪怕我們都知道旅行只是暫時的逃離,哪怕我們也知道回來之后,還是要去面對生活的瑣碎和壓力。可無論是順水推舟也好,逆流而上也罷,最終,我們都必須和水達成和解,我明白生活里的苦難,可我依然深深愛著它,這才是生活的意義。


I have always felt my mother's life is particularly successful.


Her 50 years old, still slim figure, as a mother, and my dad love for decades, gave birth to a child and a woman. As a teacher, peach myriad, every year to her new year people flocked. In the eyes of all people know, my mother is a model of successful women. My mother is also old that their own life, no regrets of things.


But one day, after dinner, she was as usual in the mopping. TV is on a country's travel advertising. She suddenly stopped, looked at with interest, gently said: "I want to go with you." Then they went to the ground.


Do not know why, my heart suddenly sour a bit. And realize that, in fact, my mother is a particularly fond of playing a woman. When cooking are singing dancers, one to the weekend to greet you to the new restaurant to taste fresh.


She is also a special love of travel, she often told me that grandpa grandmother with a child when she traveled the country's experience, but also told me that girls must go and love people travel.


However, since the married, with us, my mother seems to have never left home step. At that moment I found that my mother is not no regrets, but no one care about it.


A woman, no matter how old, life looks so perfect, the heart will live with a dream and love to travel with the little girl.


Haizi said, you come to earth trip, you have to look at the sun. And your sweetheart, walking together in the street.


Love TA must take TA to travel.


Travel before marriage is the best way to test whether two people can walk. Travel problems exposed in life will always test the two sides in love, not experienced the oil and soy sauce pasta couple, should go early to see more attractions or simply sleep a Lanjue choice problems will be enlarged For "whether your world view is fit".


How the other character, temper is good or bad, encounter problems whether to understand, whether considerate will take care of these people will be reflected in the trip. Can get along, or that is willing to get along with this person, is to see the travel, each other's patience.


How important is it to travel frequently after getting married? How important is it going to travel after after getting married?


If you have traveled before the trip test, it is more often to travel after marriage.


We often say that a woman's marriage is good, to see her face to know, every time I see the high round and Zhao and Ting married, become more and more temperament and charm, especially in her travel photos, laughing frown Especially charming.


She likes to travel, and whenever she sent a photo in the microblogging, there will always be a lot of people jokingly commented: uncle it?


Some people asked Zhao Youting: why do not shoot still have to follow the round of the world around running around?


Zhao said: "where she wants to go, I will accompany her where to go.


In the comments at the time, I saw such a sentence: marriage is not terrible, but the marriage as a grave, they are married, where they do not go, live their own crucified at home.


    
I've seen a lot of men get married and get out of the way.

    
I have seen a lot of women married, only around the child turn;

    
I have seen these married men and women, all day complaining about everything at home.


They stand in the position of the people, a "grave", tell us how terrible marriage life, how dull and boring, that this is the reality.


I think of graduating that year my staff department director, she was 34 years old, looks 27,28 years old no difference, smile bright, and her husband married for 9 years.


When I was in the beginning of the internship, I heard that the head of the personnel department left, because the company is facing the key to the expansion of financing nodes, do not give her holiday travel.


I did the day of the report, that was her last day of the company. In the meeting room, she asked me: "If one day, the work may seriously affect your life, how would you choose?"


"I can not live without money and work is more important than life," she said softly, and then said, "Well, your report has been done, and then someone will tell you the result." Since then, I have never seen her again.


Later, the company's colleagues said she and her husband, made an appointment at least once a year to travel abroad, when I just graduated from college, I can not understand the travel to her and her husband how it would be so important.


Until then, I saw a lot of people around me get married, and then of course the life of the tasteless life, I know why she had so defended her and her husband out of the right to travel.


Two people even if the love was so intense, always in a certain stage of life, found that life will fall into a kind of boring and trivial, love in the fireworks greasy, blurred the face, worn warm. Since we are willing to tea and vinegar tea to forbear yourself, why do not want to poetry and painting poetry and tea to take a breath?


You do not have to talk about paper diapers, curse boss, liquidation bills, you relax, you can recall the past good times, there have been dreams, those long lost sweet, will re-climb my heart.


Perhaps, in the heavy trivial, we have long understood the truth of life, but we still have to choose to believe in love; we have long known each other's weaknesses, but will not give up people who will accompany my life.


Maybe this is, marriage is not bad any bad, we still want to find a reason for the end of it.


If you love children, take TA to travel.


My friend Xie Kehui wrote a story, that year when she traveled to Europe, met a pair of Chinese father and son. Father because of travel, with children traveling all the way to travel to the European city, the child's father seems to be a returnees, you can feel the kind of peace and calm, seen the world.


"I always feel that our generation is a poor gene, there is no good material conditions, did not go out to see the world. This gene is caught," said the father, said the words, so that she was impressed, he said: In their own and the limitations of the previous generation.


So, until adulthood, there will be a kind of insecurity of life, hoping to make money, hoping to succeed, desperately with their own decorations. And I hope that the next generation will not be the case. "


So he as much as possible to let the children go to the outside world, see the people outside. His children are ten years old, plain clothes, take a long bus to Paris, but also with people in English fluent conversation, low-key and introverted.


A long time ago, I read Hemingway's words.


"If you are lucky enough to live in Paris at a young age, then you will always follow you wherever you go."


Every city has its own temperament, it will affect you in your young age, change you, tell you the original life there are so many live law.


How important is it to travel frequently after getting married? How important is it going to travel after after getting married?


Know there is a problem, to more than 100 countries is what kind of experience. There is an answer point to praise the highest.


"Understand the world is not the so-called natural correct and absolute political correct, able to accept other people have different three views and their derived from the way of thinking." In this full of prejudice, do not understand, even see the difference will be different , Able to accept others have different three views, different living law, how important things.


Such as children really grow up after she will understand that not three years old must be married, men do not have to be rich and powerful is called success. If you love your child, be sure to take TA to travel.


Let TA go to see how good the world, so that TA in the most innocent and pure when the children of each city's beautiful memories, deeply engraved in my mind. Grow up, even if encountered unhappy, how could he give up life?


If you love life, go and travel.


There is a million on the microblogging over a million words - when you stare at the computer, Alaska's cod is leaping out of the water; when you frown, the Meili Snow Mountain monkey just climbed the tree; when you squeeze the subway, The Cloud Eagle in Tibet goes straight into the clouds;


When you quarreled with your boss, the Nepalese backpackers had put a glass of wine around the fire. The world, there are some ways to wear high heels can not get away, there are some sprinkled with perfume smell the air, there are some people in the office never met ... ...


Many people blame all life, blame to reality, so young, living and living in the "home".


Marriage, family, life is indeed very realistic, each of us living in this world, will also face a variety of pressure.


You look like those happy family of marriage, may have two couples have not talk about a whole year, you look at those who are young when the founder of the CEO's 809, may be late every night for the next Financing tossing and turning.


I have seen the local boss driving a luxury car, living in the villa, who knows he owed the bank tens of millions want to secretly commit suicide? Online to see a word, who is not the side of love life, while want to die?


I can not say that marriage is not a grave in the end, but I know that life is a process from the beginning of the birth to the grave.


Life can not really escape, like a promised promise to hand to the old marriage, it will keep pace with two people have been to the old, we can not every trivial quarrel on the idea of ??divorce, can not face no longer Passionate partner is thinking of parting ways, can not put two people alive and tied at home can not move.


It is like living in this world every one of us, who are carrying a different pressure, can say ten thousand inseparable from the reasons, but we can not stop to see, can not be limited to life in a small Of the space, can not be gently tied to the reality of the hands and feet.


Even if we all know that travel is only temporary escape, even if we also know that after coming back, or to face the trivial and stress of life. Whether it is a matter of course, counter-current worth mentioning, and ultimately, we must reach a settlement with the water, I understand the suffering of life, but I still deeply in love with it, this is the meaning of life.

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